Back-to-School Anxiety in kids — What’s Normal and What’s Not
It’s perfectly normal for kids to feel a little nervous before the first day of school. But how can parents tell when it’s just the “first day jitters” — and when it might be something more?
Normal Back-to-School Nerves
Many kids experience:
Trouble falling asleep the night before
Asking lots of “what if” questions (“What if I don’t know anyone?”)
Mild clinginess or wanting you to walk them into class
A slightly upset stomach or decreased appetite on the first morning
These signs usually fade within the first couple of weeks as your child settles into routines and builds confidence.
When It Might Be More Than Typical Nerves
Consider reaching out for professional support if your child:
Has severe physical symptoms (vomiting, frequent headaches, stomachaches) before school
Refuses to go or has intense meltdowns every morning beyond the first couple of weeks
Shows big changes in mood (irritability, sadness, withdrawal) that don’t improve
Struggles with sleep, appetite, or concentration for more than a few weeks
Expresses constant fear or dread about school, even after settling in socially and academically
Why Some Kids Struggle More
Kids with anxiety disorders, ADHD, autism, or recent major life changes (like a move, divorce, or loss) may have a harder time adjusting — and often need extra support and strategies.
How Parents Can Help
Validate their feelings: “I know this is hard, and I’m here with you.”
Practice routines: Rehearse drop-off or walk the route to school together.
Break things down: Focus on getting through the morning, not the whole week.
Stay calm yourself: Your child will take emotional cues from you.
Get professional help early: If anxiety is interfering with daily life, an evaluation can help identify the right tools and supports.
Final Thought
A little anxiety is normal — it means your child’s brain is preparing for something new. But if those worries don’t fade or start to affect their daily life, it’s worth looking deeper.
At Lucid Psychiatry, I help kids, teens, and families navigate school transitions, manage anxiety, and build skills that last well beyond the classroom.
